Dear Muslim Women

Dear Muslim women:

can we love & accept each other without tearing each other apart? Is it possible to appreciate women for being hijabi fashionistas, or wearing hella thick eyeliner without judging the content of their character? Without questioning their devotion to modesty or God? When we make these underhanded remarks under the guise of reminders I wonder how much benefit comes from it. Sometimes "reminders" can be more harmful. I have always found that reminders that are rooted in shaming people have never been productive. There are millions of muslim women on this planet and to expect that they they will all interpret and act upon things in the same manner as you is a disservice to this faith. Understanding religion differently than someone else does not make you wrong, it does not weaken your faith, it does not take away your commitment to this community or God. So can we allow for women to express themselves while we hold them gently and cheer for them along the way? Is this possible?

To my beloved Muslims

Hi Muslims,

Make sure you're properly hydrated and eating well. Try to make time to pray regularly. And make Dua for everyone. If you, by Gods grace, wake up tomorrow say alhamdulilah. If you're feeling a little scared walking outside recite ayat ul Kursi iA its a source of protection. The weather is supposed to be a little chilly in the next few days so dress warmly. If you can, call/msg/text those who you have wronged or have wronged you and try to mend relations - it will make you feel better. Take a few minutes tomorrow and completely unplug from social media and just sit by yourself, you might gain some new perspective.

Our prophet pbuh said that our community is like one body and if one part of the body is in pain, then the whole body is affected. So what I'm saying is that I care about your well being because it is intrinsically linked to my own. Please take care of yourself and each other.

Ok goodnight. Salaams

If I could tell you all the words I really want to say. 
    
       Spell out all the feelings and emotions, rising, brimming, spilling.

If I could tell you all the words I really want to say instead of the vile poisonous jibberish that topples out,


                                                          If I could 'remove message' every meanly modulated word that came out of my mouth like I can on Skype, 

    If there were a drop-down language option to transliterate emotion to word.  From mind to pen. 

Put pen to paper.

If I could know that you really heard me the same way you R'd a bbm message, 

If I could courier you my thoughts running free and wild in my mind, have you sign off when you receive it.  

Three  Ten business days later.

If I could source code all the anger.

Show you the bits that matter.

I would.     Without question. 

Without pause.

Without wax.

do not call on my strength.

do not reflect the steely hardness in my eyes.

do not reward the roughness of my hold as we chafe against each other.

do not drink in the firmness of my inflection.

do not lap up the bitter taste of my words.

do not sing praise to my withering stare.

do not applaud my clenched fists.

instead,

instead.

appeal to my softness,

draw out the saltine tears that refuse to well up,

run your hands along my skin; go on, 

discover the dimples of my flesh,

hear the tremble in my modulation,

taste the vulnerability on my lips,

open my palms and sand down the calluses,

to be hard is effortless.

it takes everything, 

everything.

to remain soft,

let me be soft.

-I cry when I'm angry